if you want to learn to be a good host
learn to be a guest first

we won't quite be the givers if we don't truly recognise where gifts really come from.
we won't know the spirit to give in, with not our own selves and interests in mind but with your interests in mind
if we don't learn that as much as we want to be hospitable, we need to receive love first, His love.

and then it flows.

"he wasn't just interested in pleasing her but he really wanted her to be good for herself" ~ elim

today,
over tea, soup, cooing over jabin, bread, assisting in making pumpkin pie and cups of chai
i felt extremely and very blessed.

learning to give shouldn't be a selfish enterprise.