i faintly recall my friend glad talking once about "how could you not fall in love with someone" and i'm starting to see the truth in that statement with the help of some late night msn conversations with old friends in kelowna :)

i think i could fall in love with a lot of people. and why not? there is something beautiful in each individual, some aspect you can always pick out and admire in the person once you get to be better acquainted with them.

that's why i can't believe in the whole "find your soulmate and you will be complete" jingle. i think there are plenty of people out there whom you can potentially fall in love with, but that said, being in relationship with someone means not spreading yourself out too thin, it means investing and walking with that other in an intimate, confidential way.

so, there are many you could love. but one you have to choose.

and maybe therein lies the problem with relationships today. you'll always going to find someone out there who may seem more compatible to you than the one you're with, or whom you have chemistry with, a 'somebody else' who is going to make you question whether you should be with so-and-so since 'somebody else' seems to be a good fit for you too. and if you believe in that ultimate soulmate... well aren't you going to have problems if there are plenty of shoes that fit your feet?

in my very simplistic understanding, i think in the end, it's not about the fit (whether the manolos or hush puppies suit your feet and style better). you have to choose one and what you make of that relationship, how you work it out, how you value each other and seek to build the other person up, how you choose to make a life accountable to one another is what matters.

this rant comes in light of internet pop up windows that advertise finding the one true person inkeeping with the theme of the imminent valentine's day. to an extent, i have to admit that i am the ebenezer scrooge of valentine's day.

bah humbug.